WILL YOU BE MY DAD INSTEAD?

We are continuing on from last weeks episode "Will you be my neighbor".  My dad and I reenact our painful phone conversations in hopes that I can give him a better understanding of different ways to try and bond with me. His biggest complaint about trying to establish a stronger father-daughter relationship is that I was impossible to talk to on the phone. This time round, I paint him a better picture of the type of kid I was. My dad didn't know at the time that I was bullied by my friends and I had anxiety about people liking me. So much so that I would bring my babysitters kids bags of change so they would be nice to me. All of this worry is what made me even more closed off. And what kid feels comfortable opening up about to an adult, let alone their estranged dad, about they're insecurities and fears. Once my dad got to the root cause he gave some pretty good fatherly advice.

In order for me to understand his side, we reverse roles and I play the parent trying to crack little drummer Bobby. I realized trying to connect with your kid is actually a lot harder than it seemed. Especially if the child is closed off. Or in this instance, tells you they are bored of talking to you. Little drummer Bobby's brutal honesty has surpassed my abandonment issues and resurfaced my fear of rejection and being liked. Am I boring? 

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